Please Stop Single Mothers and Think

I keep seeing on various social media web networking sites Single mothers posting the cutest pictures of their much-beloved children online. I admit some of these pictures are adorable, we give birth to some beautiful babies.  A mommy has every right to be proud of their children. Shoot, we carry them nine whole months and go through sometimes hours of excruciating pain to bring them forth. (unless of course, you get the shot) And as joyous as  being a mom can be it is hard work. So yeah, you get bragging rights. 

But why the Hell do you put your Children on your public social networking sites? It's INSANE! Totally.  We talk about the safety of our children online and the turnaround and post pictures of them for any and all predators to get a good view. You put child safety apps on their phone and apps to monitor them on facebook, Twitter,snap chat, Viber, etc, but then you will post on a networking site, pictures of your personal good times with your children. What are you thinking? Or are you REALLY THINKING?  

The dating websites slay me. Why would you include pictures of your minor child on your dating site? Do you not know that there men out there who target single mothers with children? There real live boogie men out there and they LIVE  on the Net. And please do not believe you can tell, because half the time you can't. They don't all come across as creepy or sleazy.  They are shapes sizes and education levels and backgrounds. They can be fun, generous, so considerate, compassionate and oh so understanding of your challenges as a single MOM.  You get o comfortable and everybody is either in therapy or jail or both. 

Lessen your chances of picking up some real creep and take those pics down girls/boys it doesn't matter. take them down. Only share with family and very close friends, not friends of friends.

Predators troll the net. It is the New Market for everything especially child porn, even though your pictures may be fully clothed an innocent picture of swim trunks , or a bathing suit can be enticing to these degenerates. Protect yourself and your Babies, Don't advertise your children.

Sisters Be FOR your Sister

This is my first post for this particular blog. I have sat here for about four hours trying to figure out just how to start. Or even WHERE, to start.  I have a vision. My vision derives from my personal experiences and the knowledge of the experiences of other women. Most certainly Black women but, not to exclude my sisters from another Mother.  We all have struggled, aspired, dreamed, and work hard for whatever we have , where ever we live. Sometimes we are alone. Sometimes we are alone even when we are not. Yet, I am here to say, you . me , "We", Are Not alone. We are never alone. We are Nation. We are Sisters, Friends, Mothers, daughters, cousins, neighbors, the ladies in the stores, malls, the homeless women in the street, Aunts,  and grandmas, We are a Nation, and we have our own power and our own strengths, we can grow, we can share, we can have conversations, and we can listen to each  other and we can help each other. We just need to be FOR each other.  The world can be a big place and sometimes confusing and scary, we sisters have knowledge and experiences we can and perhaps should share. Information is POWER.

The Sharing of Information fosters education, education is growth. We all need to GROW. continuously. Grow intellectually, spiritually, and reach out to grow as a people. We have a responsibility to each other , our families and our communities.  Just look around you at the state of our nation. At what is happening to the youth in our streets. Most especially we people of color. We have to start somewhere. we have to begin to uplift each other. Support the positive in one another. Reach back, reach up, reach around,  reach down and grab hold to each other.
Don't be afraid to stop sometimes and actually listen to another woman weather it be her Joy or her dispair let's stop being selfish with ourselves and with our time. Take the time to connect. You may find the rewards to be greater than you could ever imagine.

This is just a short message as to what I am striving for with this blog. I welcome comments, suggestions , constructive criticisms,  links to interesting articles blogs, useful ideas, creative ideas etc. I would like to inspire conversations among women, foster support groups and or systems. You can leave what you like in the comments section as long it is not intentionally derogatory, spiteful, demeaning, or otherwise negative or abuse in any way. I am striving for peaceful coexistence in an otherwise chaotic world. Let's be the Light in the darkness and not a part of the Abyss.